Success and Failure

Success is just failing over and over again, until you succeed. ~ JP ~

Let’s face it. No one likes to fail. In fact failure in western society is looked down upon with disdain. We are taught from an early age that we should do certain things in life to “succeed”, examples of this are that we should go to school and get good grades moving from grade to grade getting ever more “successful.”

Success in our culture means winning. Losing is not even a thought amongst most of us, because losing is failure. Failure is painful because most of us have been trained from a very early age to believe that failure is bad, that failure is to be avoided at all costs.

We have been lied to by our parents, teachers, employers and society.  It really isn’t their fault though, the “failure is a bad thing” mentality was taught to them from their parents, teachers, employers and society, and
so it was passed on to us like a virus. Failure is not a bad thing and with the right mindset “failures” can be a launching pad for further reflection and subsequent course changes in our life.

Failing must be looked at with an eye towards change instead of an end game. We all fail, every single day. Everyday millions of people beat themselves up for not doing something the “right” way.  The Greek philosopher Socrates has been attributed with the quote, “The unexamined life is not worth living.”

I agree. When we do or don’t do something and then feel like we have failed, instead of berating ourselves we should take Socrates advice and examine our actions with an dispassionate observer’s point of view. Examining and thinking through actions/inactions will help in discovering the real reasons for the supposed failure.

Failure is only as permanent as we let it be. Failure is a teaching tool, a moment in time and should be dwelled on it order to grow and change, but not to wallow in. The next time you feel like you have failed yourself or another, give yourself the space to step back and realize that you are human and that it happens to everyone. Failure can defeat you or propel you onto bigger and better things with the mindset of self-forgiveness and inner reflection.

Go out into the world and fail big! Success however you define it is always built on the ruins of failure. Always.



You are your pain

This morning as I went about my routine it occurred to me that my aches and pains were part of me. In America and the western world we have been taught through repetition of the media, doctors, parents and teachers to “find the quick fix.” The usually means taking a pill and treating the symptom rather than the problem.

In modern parlance it is now called a “hack” or a “life hack.”  The problem is that it has developed from a way to shortcut a process to save time and energy, to becoming a way to give away our power and responsibility for our own lives. The process of living, even if it is in pain, is to understand ourselves first and others as we learn.

There is no shortcut to life, it must be lived and felt; even if it is painful. It is in our nature to feel pain. We are corporeal beings and along with the pleasing feelings of joy, love, and exhilaration we must and will feel pain in order to grow. I recently asked my mother when she was complaining about her painful knees to me if she had ever asked her pain why it was here. The bewilderment and astonishment on her face was interesting. The thought to look into her own mind and ask her self questions never occurred to her.

How many of us do this without thinking about the separateness that we impose on ourselves with outdated thinking? We are our pain just as much as we are our joy. There is no separateness. Not in ourselves, not with others, not in the Universe as a whole. The thoughts of separateness are in our mind. The divisions of race, religion, politics, are an outdated version of “reality” that are no longer serving the human race or the Earth.

Don’t run from your pain, feel it, ask it questions and then listen to the answers and heal yourself first, then others, then the Earth that we all live in. Reach out with your feelings and be brave enough to set aside your preconceptions and world view. Open your mind to the process, the journey if you will.

Being in pain is not unique, it is a right of passage. That being said, pain does not have to be crippling if we remember that the life we are all living is a process from birth to death, and our job is to learn from all the aspects of being human.

The next time you feel pain before running to the medicine cabinet to “treat the symptom”, take a moment and sit with your discomfort. Ask yourself, what is my pain trying to tell me. To rest, to move, to stretch? Only you can know the answer your body gives you. It is a message that is for you, from you.

As I heard on the Rich Roll podcast recently, “The process, is the process, is the process.”


Goodbye Mr. Spock

A few days ago a cultural, artistic icon passed away. It is a name that everyone who has spent any amount of time watching television, movies or had the good fortune to see his photography and poetry knows. Leonard Nimoy.

Best known and loved as the logical Vulcan character Spock. Leonard Nimoy was a hero and an inspiration to millions of people, me included. The effect that Leonard’s portrayal of Spock was simply nothing short of amazing. Thousands of people in the last 50 years since Star Trek premiered; pursued careers in the fields of science/medicine and technology. The world has been changed forever, all thanks to one “Green blooded Vulcan” as his character’s friend Doctor McCoy would say.

Being a lifelong fan of Star Trek and all its iterations, Mr. Nimoy was and will always be one of my favorite characters of all. Portraying and alien back in the 1960’s and before was an almost comical thing, bringing with it ridicule. Leonard Nimoy brought a certain style and honor to a character that changed the way that most of us think about science and science fiction at large. How many expressions are used in common language now that started with Spock or Star Trek?

Mr. Spock was and is a friend, mentor and inspiration to us all, yet Mr. Nimoy played many other roles but none of them were as iconic and interesting as Spock was and is. This is just my opinion and I will admit to a certain bias. No words can convey the sadness that many feel now that he is gone, but never forgotten. It is like we all lost our favorite grandfather but it was his time as someday it will be ours.

I will leave you with one of Mr. Nimoy’s last posts on Twitter. I believe that it encapsulates the lessons and wisdom learned over a long lifetime.

A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved, except in memory. LLAP.


Fear and the Ego

Fear separates us from others and from ourselves. Fear is avoided by the mind, it is ignored, pushed away drugged, drowned in alcohol, distractions of all kinds. In the meantime our self-esteem suffers the brunt of it all.

Not being aware of our inner environment creates a void that must be filled, and by most it is with fear, guilt and avoidance. There is a better way…

The way of love, self-love, love for others, love for life and the world around us, no matter how transitory we imagine it to be. The old saying goes, “Nothing last forever.” I beg to differ, everything is energy, and science and common sense tells us that energy cannot be created or destroyed; hence everything and everyone (again personal identification with the body) are immortal.

Stars explode in a spectacular display (Nova or Supernova) and disperse the elements that comprise the spectrum of matter that over large periods of time and exposure to gravity (attraction) assembles new suns, planets and life of all kinds. We are made of stars as Carl Sagan used to say. Each one of us is an unimaginably powerful being, joined with and part of the sea of energy that makes up everything and nothingness all at the same time.

Fear is not real, it is diversion by the ego to make people think that “something” is wrong or “something” must be done. The void in our hearts and the resulting fear and loss of self-esteem is the ego doing what it needs to do to survive. Be at peace instead and let the ego fall silent. Let go of the guilt about your past, it is holding you back from a happy life.

Death of the ego can only be accomplished through self-reflection, the willingness to let go of our limited point of view. Perception through the filter/lens of ego will keep us trapped in a personal hell. The little payoffs that we get from staying in the same place must be examined with an open heart. Questioning what you think about a subject or a person will help you to reveal the resistance (the ego) and then those feelings can be quietly contemplated and questioned until you find the “real” reasons that usually point to you feeling bad or angry.

Our view of the world and the people in it is only accurate if and only if, surrender is ongoing. We as a race of people have forgotten (or been lied to as children) that “things” had to be a certain way.

Our ancestor’s paradigm and place in the time stream are different from our own. We can overcome our egos with examination and honesty. Letting go is a personal journey, a journey that can only be undertaken with an open heart and an honest desire to change, to be different, and to be loving and kind even to those that may have hurt you. The hurt was just the ego throwing a tantrum like a small child, wanting to get its way yet again.

Self-love disables fear by shining a light on the ego. Start today, get out the bright light of self-examination and spread your kindness into the dark corners of your soul and into the lives of others. Shine this light, not in judgment but in kindness and love. Be at peace with everyone. If others do not reciprocate your love, that is their choice to do so, judging another’s life or actions is not our job.

People do what they do out of ego/fear and that is fine. Everyone’s sojourn is different, a path that we all must walk alone. The path need not be lonely though as love is all-inclusive of everyone and everything in the universe, imagined and unimaginable.




There are going to be days when you feel more resistance in your heart than others. On the days that you feel resistance, extra sensitivity is needed to perceive what is causing that resistance.What is resistance you might ask?

Resistance is the feeling (I get it around my heart or solar plexus chakras) of fear or anxiety. You will know it when you feel it. Resistance can also come in the form of not wanting to do something that is asked of you. That feeling of “no I don’t want to” is resistance. That small selfish child in each of us, our small “self” if you will.

Doing things for others is a hallmark of being a peaceful human being, it leads us to a place of service, a place of surrender to our own needs for a short time, a reminder of what we are trying to accomplish in letting go of our ego and negative emotions.

When you feel resistance or anxious be happy, it is your spirit telling you that more work needs to be done. Surrender to the feeling, sit with it like an old friend and ask yourself questions such as why.

Why do I feel this way? What is causing me to feel this way? What am I resisting in myself? This is a gentle process that demands patience and self-love and personal evaluation. Endeavor to understand your heart, the part of you that is the “always on” connection with everything that exists in the past, present and future.

Each one of your reading this is an infinite being capable of miracles. The only thing that stops you from fully actualizing it is programming and resistance. The programming that each one of us receives constantly from the media, entertainment and others who are not aware enough to understand they are infinite, is overwhelmingly negative.

That negativity breeds resistance in our hearts and minds. Negative emotions that block our inner joy, rob of us our conscious connection to the universe and to each other. We are not alone, we have never been alone, and the illusion of separateness is false.

Awake O’sleeper…your destiny awaits you; it’s on the other side of your resistance to change and love.


A death in the family

There are periods in everyone’s life that requires a little self-reflection. A death of a close friend or family member is one of those times. My brother passed away very recently and I find that I am going through the normal stages of grief and emotions that go with such an event.

Remembering the person who is now missing is important to those left behind.  A hole is left in your psyche that needs time to heal, to scab over and finally to rebuild with a scar to remind us of what has been lost. Each death diminishes all of us in some way, even if it is not felt by anyone but you.

The rolodex of memories that I have for my brother is full of good, bad and otherwise but I am fairly sure that isn’t abnormal. The good includes the time my brother rescued me as a small child from a flock of angry Canada geese. The bad includes the time my brother almost shot out one of my eyes with a homemade bow and arrow. So many memories to sort out, so many times that my brother and I fought or ignored each other…

If you have a brother or sister tell them you love them today. Do it now, for we know not how much time we have left on this Earth. Don’t take anyone in your life for granted, love each minute that you can have with your siblings, family and friends.

Love my dear readers is the only thing that really matters. Love transcends death and suffering, love transcends loss, love bridges lifetime to lifetime. Love is the glue that holds human relationships together. Love is the most powerful force in the Universe.


What if I fall?

A inspired post. Please read and think about what it means to you.

Cristian Mihai


“What if I fall?” 
“Oh my darling, what if you fly?”

Do you ever ask yourself if you like the person you are? If you are who you’ve always wanted to be? Do you know who you want to be?

To be honest, it wasn’t until a few weeks ago that I realized who I really wanted to be. I want to be that guy who tells people they can fly. I want to see the magic they have stored up in their hearts for so long. And I want to make them see it, I want to make them use it. Because, truth be told, falling is just another way to fly.

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