Ok, so what comes next?

Entropy is a bitch. Make friends with it.



Don’t let anyone tell you that they know what happens after your bodily processes cease to function. No one really knows, but some who have “passed through the veil” and returned, have seen a glimpse.


Some see God, some see deceased relatives welcoming them to heaven. Then some see a dark place, a place of rest…oblivion. Those people’s stories are what I am interested in. Why is their experience with death so different than the souls that see God and heaven? I have a theory; the individuals that find that place of oblivion are at peace with death. They know that everyone and everything is subject to entropy.


Entropy, it is not just a destroyer but a recycler or sorts. Entropy is an “inevitable truth” of things. There is more to the story as you will see. Entropy works along the opposite line as well. Death, Destruction, the passage of time, an instrument of Entropy/Life, growth, development, reproduction, old age (if you are lucky) and Death that gives life to other beings. Trees grow up and take in the nutrients of their fallen ancestors. Yes the circle of Life is driven by Death and Death is driven by Life.


Humans are afraid of Death because of its seeming permanence. We spend so much time as a race running from Death, all the while knowing in our hearts no matter what religious or spiritual belief that we may hold dear to us…that Death will outpace us someday and we will submit to the final embrace. Religion is based on the fear of Death. The question is not how we should prepare for Death and the afterlife, but how are you living today?


Are you a decent human being? Do you try to help others when you can? Do you take care of your family? Do you show loyalty to your friends and loved ones? Friends that is all that we can do as people. Do the best you can every day and if you can make a difference in someone’s life. Be the superhero for the person that needs it. We are only here for a short time. Examine how you feel about Death. Don’t shy away, talk to Death. Make it your friend and hang out with it. Death isn’t to be feared any more than Life is.


Entropy is inevitable, make a peace treaty with it now while you still have a say in at least your part of the relationship. Maybe if you find the reasons you are afraid to die, then you might find a more compelling reason to live a full life.



The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. 
Mahatma Ghandi

I have been pondering the concept of forgiveness lately. forgiveness is a lost art. In our modern world we take offense at everything and I mean everything! The person who cuts in front of us at the supermarket without even an “excuse me” thrown out there or a neighbor who won’t even look at you as you drive by her home. No I don’t like to be treated poorly any more than you do…
You would think that I killed one of her kids, nope; I am not even considering it lady, too much paperwork…
It is times like those when I have to work on forgiveness the most. I have to remember that the reason that others are acting out or are rude or inconsiderate is because of them, not me.
Judging others based on just a short interaction is not fair or right. You have no idea what is going on in a person’s life, what battles they may be waging or what troubles they carry. I am not purposing that you should condone or accept poor behavior from others as we are all responsible for our own actions, but to have forgiveness in your heart and mind.
The forgiveness needs to be for you, not them. If you hold others bad intentions, anger and fear it will eat away at you little by little until you are an unhappy wretched husk of a person. Let it go, forgive both yourself and others. No one is perfect but everyone deserves a second chance.
Be strong and forgive those who are hurtful to you and others. The pain in them is evident even to the least sensitive. Open your eyes and see the truth of it. Forgiveness is not always easy but it is essential for you to move forward in your life.
Be well,


Walking alone along life's pathToday my wife and I were discussing why certain things in life happen. It came to me that “things” don’t really happen to us but more we are presented lessons. I suspect you know what I mean if you have been on this planet for a while. You get that feeling of needing to get something done, or move on from a relationship or a job for example.

At first you ignore it, then you rationalize why you should stay where you are. Fear creeps in telling you that things are “not so bad”. Well, let me tell you something dear reader, if you get those nagging thoughts and feelings and don’t act on them they keep coming back over and over, then the Universe, God, Spirit (insert your favorite deity or thought process, religious belief etc, here) gives you something that you can no longer ignore, a health problem, a broken marriage or relationship, family issues you name it as it could be anything that really gets your attention and holds it tight.

Me, I am having a health problem that has been plaguing me for many months. I won’t go into what I was ignoring in my situation but I will tell you that I now have an issue that is holding my attention completely. I have been forced to deal with the lesson that the Universe has seen fit for me to learn.

It is time to let go, to release our hold on what we are clinging to so desperately. Our pain comes from holding on to things and situations and people who are doing us harm and our sub-conscious mind knows it. I suspect that we know it consciously as well; if we are honest with ourselves that is.

I am being honest here. I am letting go because I have no choice now. It makes me sad that fear of change has gotten me to this point but it has. My family and I deserve better than what I have been holding on to. It is of no matter then, the damage is done, the Universe has my attention and I will change. I am ready, willing and able, all it requires is an act of faith and the willingness to “flow” with what is, not what I want it to be.

I know that as I drift and stop trying to paddle upstream without even a paddle this time, I can rest in the assurance that life will unfold the way it should with or without my resistance to it. There are forces far greater than each of us in play. A lesson learned again.

The Universe must be really patient with me…I keep having to learn the hard way.

Letting go now…



I have been thinking a lot of oblivion in the last six months. After the death of my friend Chris, it has been weighing heavily in my life. I see that life moves on without him as it would move on in any case if any of us left this level of existence.


All talk about religion and the afterlife aside here…life lives on in the living, through the people who are in the here and now. Our time is limited and biology makes it so. We have a numbered amount of days and that is all we get.


Sometimes the number is up to us and sometimes it is determined by the actions of others. The end result is the same, we are out of the framework that seems so real to the ones that are living in this bubble of matter and light and noise. There are some days that I see glimpses of what it is like to be absent from this time-space continuum. Twice I have almost died so I look upon death with a different perspective than most. I do not fear not being. I do wish that I had made more of an impact of others lives though.


Yesterday when I was waiting in line for the cashier at the grocery store I looked around me and a surreal feeling came over the whole situation, I realized that if I was not standing here in this time and place that it would not matter if I stood here or someone else did. If I would not have met my ex-wife and had children, they would not exist, but someone would be in this time and place to take their places.


What makes up our sense of reality? Timing, experience, feelings, intersecting with another along your life’s path to create more life? If we don’t do it, someone else will and the balance that is currently maintained would go on without the single person. Or possibly millions…


If our local star Sol exploded today and destroyed the Earth and the whole solar system that we live, would anyone notice. Would the existence or lack there of, make any difference in natures balance? Only the observer from a distance might notice a flashing light in the night sky on some distant world, hundreds or even thousands of years later when the light from an exploding sun reached them.


Oblivion comes before and after our brief time here. Sometimes I think that it would be easier to drift into the dark, quiet place that almost embraced me twice. The most peaceful time that I have ever known. This life is so full of anger, violence, noise and hurt.


If you can look for the beauty, joy, light and happiness. I am still seeking that place and maybe before it is my time to go, to rest in the dark quiet place that I know is coming for us all, I will find a way to be happy, to be a guide to the person or people who I came here to help.


If not, I like so many before me will fade into the stream of time, to be forgotten. Seek your own truth concerning this matter for only you can decide what is best for you, not your spouse, children, ex’s, religious leaders, friends, no one but you.


Look into that place in your heart that no one else knows but you, if you have the courage to seek your own path in this matter. We all come into this life alone, we walk our path alone even if we don’t think we do and finally we step out of this time and place alone, to what no  one really knows.


That is the way it should be.


Be well.